Thinking Correctly Under Pressure

Thinking Correctly Under Pressure – or T-CUP – was popularized by Sir Clive Woodward the former England Rugby Union head coach.  He spoke often about big moments in sport, and that those competitors who could master T-CUP were the difference makers. I wrote about his thoughts on this subject in my Best Selling award winning book The Vital Edge.  Check it out for more, on this, and other fascinating lessons from sport.

One of the most dramatic examples of what he was getting at (although it seems that his misunderstanding of basketball rules meant his example was actually wrongly described) is demonstrated in a brilliant clip of the final second of a basketball game between two U.S. College teams.  The scores were tied at 88 apiece in overtime, with only 0.6 seconds left on the clock, when one of the teams was awarded two free throws. The first free throw was successful, making the score 89-88, with one throw remaining. Now, this should have been the game won.  All the team that was in the lead by a point had to do was, either score the second free throw, or ensure that the remaining 0.6 seconds were quickly eaten up should they miss.

One hugely alert member of the defending team, Jordan Snipes, had other ideas, and demonstrated a phenomenal level of T-CUP.  The ball rebounded from the rim of the basket, allowing our super alert player, Snipes, to capture the ball and hurl it the full length of the court, all in one motion. The rules of basketball are such that, even if the end of game buzzer sounds, the game does not end until a ball that is in the air hits the ground. The ball in this moment travelled over 85 feet and landed on the court, after passing cleanly through the basket at the other end of the court for a 3 point score, meaning his team had won 91-89.

“The Shot” is widely considered one of the greatest in NCAA history. The result was turned on its head in an instant by the clear thinking of one player who anticipated the ball rebounding from the rim, and knew exactly what he had to do as soon as he recovered possession of the ball.  It was a thoroughly compelling moment.  I urge you to watch this video as it is one of those moments in sport that is fascinating, magical and tragic all in the same split second.

I suspect the thrower was giving absolutely no thought whatsoever to the possibility of what was about to unfold, just a second later.  His teammates and coach did not step in and whisper any instruction either, so we must assume they too had no premonition of the imminent turnaround that was about to happen.  I imagine the thrower was preparing to enjoy the sweet scent of victory. Mentally, he had already crossed the finishing line. His previous throw, had surely sealed the deal, and this second throw was simply ceremonial. It was the cherry on top and he was about to embrace his teammates in a dance of celebration.  Instead, as you can see from the video, he and his teammates stand around in disbelief, and it is Snipes, and his team, who explode into wild celebration.

A great moment in sport, I’m sure you will agree. But how often does it take T-CUP in big moments to produce them.  What big T-CUP moments do you recall, whether in sport, or elsewhere in your life?  Feel free to share any T-CUP moments in the comments below. I’d love to hear about them.

 

The Present Serves us Well

I have followed Andy Murray’s career, and his emotional journey, since he first burst onto the scene as a gangly teenager. This year will be his last as a professional tennis player, and he will leave behind so many great stories, and great lessons, and not just relating to Tennis. I am leaving this previous post here, as I think it is still hugely relevant, and I want to thank Andy for all the entertainment, thrills and sheer drama, he has served up over all these years.

Recognise the fact that the past is past, and that soon you won’t have any future left – so you really might as well be here. It’s not so bad. Often enough, it’s wonderful. And in any case, there’s nowhere else to be.”   Oliver Burkeman

Reconsidering Flow

“I really enjoyed being in that zone. Each moment of flow is quite addictive because it’s such an incredible place to be. You are just in the moment, just focusing on what you’re doing right now.” Christian Meier

Over the years I have written a number of articles on Flow. See this article from 2013. But, like a number of psychological concepts, it can often be elusive to pin down. Some of my clients get it right away and will rattle off experiences where they are sure they experience it. Others, however, clearly feel no connection, and wonder, in puzzlement, at how difficult situations, and even mildly painful moments, can result in flow.

Whenever I read of an account where someone tries to explain their experience of flow, I like to capture it as an addition to the body of examples. You never know which ones will land for people. This one struck me as interesting. Christian Meier describes what it means to him.

He speaks about his time as a domestique in a Grand Tour cycling team, where his role was never to win, but to be in the service of others. This demanded that he endure pain and discomfort, with no expectation of personal glory. Most people would describe this as “suffering in order to help others”, although Christian rejects the word “suffering”, preferring to think of himself as being in control of what he is doing, regulating the level of personal sacrifice he is prepared to endure. His journey from Grand Tour cycling to Ultra-running is fascinating, and along the way he offers some great insights into what it means for him to be in flow.

He characterizes the feelings he has experienced as being addictive. We don’t all have to be elite athletes or adrenaline junkies to know what that feeling is like. Indeed, meditation, yoga, and other similarly ‘mindful’ practices, generate a sense of calm, being in the moment, focusing on the present, and attending only to the here and now.

Have a read at what Christian has to say in the attached article. I’d be fascinated to hear your insights and what experiences you have had with the state of Flow?

You’ve got 8 seconds to get my attention!

“The average attention of a “millenial” is 8 seconds”.

Who said so?  Well, a “millenial” of course!  Not just any “millenial”.  This attention-grabbing claim was made by an impressive young man who was a presenter at a conference I attended this week in London.  Billed as a ‘disruptor’, (credit: Ilias Vartholomaios, Co-Founder of Owiwi) he spoke about the realities that those of us who identify with the 20th Century (I’m one) will have to come to terms with as we live out the remainder of our lives in the 21st.

Young people born after 1995 have not yet become part of the mainstream workforce. He informed us that, by the time they reach the age of 21 they will have spent (on average) 10,000 hours playing online games. As a comparator, that is pretty much the same amount of time an average US student will spend in high school between fifth grade and graduation, assuming a perfect attendance record.

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What if people just don’t care?

You are a manager. You are responsible for getting the best from your team. You will be held to account if deliveries don’t happen, if deadlines are missed and if budgets overrun. But of course, you are a good manager and those things rarely happen.  You know how to engage, motivate and inspire your people. Don’t you?

We’ve all had those conversations with people where you’ve had to lay out what’s on the line.  Why it’s so important this time – again!  And, on the whole, those cosy chats work. People walk away from those sessions, and they get on with it. They pull out all the stops and you can all go down the pub and enjoy a few drinks to celebrate the team’s (and your!) success once again.

But, what if it just doesn’t matter to them that much? What if they don’t care?  Or, they just don’t care enough?  What’s the right conversation to be having with that person now?

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Get Out Of Your Own Way

Every so often I have these moments.  It feels like a loss of focus, it gives rise to a dip in confidence, and an anxiety that the ‘clarity’ I had been experiencing has drifted away, perhaps never to return. As a coach, trainer and consultant I convince myself that I ‘need’ a solid and reliable platform from which to operate successfully. A base where I feel reassured by my own purpose. How, after all, can I be fully effective in what I do if I am seeking clarity as much, if not more, than my clients?

In these periods, my go-to instinct is to read.  To read and re-read passages from books that have in the past provided me with light-bulb moments. Flashes of light that put everything into perspective and allow me to get back on an even keel.

But this week it just wasn’t happening.  I was scanning some of my favourite books and papers.  Writers and commentators who have filled me with inspiration and energy. I was looking for the theory, or model, or piece of latest brain research that would sort me out.  And then, just as I was getting desperate, and thinking that my ‘mojo’ had departed me, I started to scan some of the highlights I had made, many years ago, in a book that I read when I was first in training.   Tim Gallwey’s “Inner Game of Work”.

And then the words jumped out of the page at me.  “We get in our own way.”

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Choice, Happiness and the Quarter-Life Crisis

Last month’s post ~ Does Choice make us Happy? ~ attracted a lot of attention. Thank you for your excellent feedback. Some of the comments I received prompted me to consider this issue further, but this time from the point of view of the younger generation, particularly Generation Y.

Alice Stapleton writes sensitively and authoritatively about the phenomenon of the Quarter-Life Crisis. Unlike the well-documented mid-life crisis, which afflicts people in their forties or fifties, and is linked to feelings of stagnancy and a desire for radical change, the quarter-life crisis stems from anxiety about change, expectations, instability and identity.

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Talismanic coaching: where science meets superstition

This Article was published originally in Coaching Psychology International, Volume 8, Issue 1 (Summer 2015) – ISSN 1758-7719 – pages 16-19. 

In Daniel Goleman’s (2013) Focus, he proposes that in a world of ever-increasing 24/7 distraction, we need to become better at focusing in the here and now. In this paper we propose the benefit of “superstitious conditioning” through the use of a Talisman to help
clients focus their attention in post-coaching situations.

Learning, at its most fundamental, is based upon the creation of neural connections which either strengthen or inhibit behaviour, facilitated by attending or not attending to stimuli. Learning can be said to happen when a new state (ie, a new connection) or a new association of existing connections occurs. The stronger the associations become, the more they become embedded, meaning the associated behaviour will be more readily enacted.

As coaches, we are in a highly privileged position, able to utilise this knowledge of how learning occurs for the benefit of our clients. We can share with them tools and techniques to create and strengthen associations. Once changes are fully embedded, then the tools may no longer be required, but, in the early days, having a proxy association to aid the formation of a neural association assists with sustenance of early progress.

However, all too often in coaching, after gaining insight, clients return to the everyday fray of work. Here, they lose conscious awareness of their coaching goal as it becomes displaced by more demanding pressures. Continue reading →

How do you know when coaching has been successful?

As a professional coach, I regularly take coaching issues and dilemmas to supervision. These sessions are an essential part of every coach’s development, growth and emotional maintenance. I thought I’d share something important that came up for me in my most recent session with my coaching supervisor, in the hope that you may too get something from it.

courtesy: Maurizio Pesce, under Creative Commons, Flicker

courtesy: Maurizio Pesce, under Creative Commons, Flicker

The dilemma I expressed was around exploration of vision. Some of my clients move naturally towards vision. They are comfortable with the language and for them it is not a threatening or challenging conversation when we explore what it looks, feels or even smells like. Other clients struggle to talk in terms of vision. Even the concept of aspiration, dream or goal can be challenging. This is particularly true for some of my clients who find themselves in custody as young offenders. Many express the view that they do not like to think too much about dreams or visions as it only results in them becoming disappointed. They say that they do not want to build up their hopes only to be let down, and as a result they content themselves by living in a world of very low expectations.

When I put this issue on the table in my supervision session, the statement that my supervisor came back to me with was “It is not our job as coaches to breed optimism.”

I let this statement sink in, and my first instinct was to rail against it.  Some of the clients I work with have very low levels of hope or positivity, and I believe that people do their best work when positive neural circuits are switched on. My coaching often focuses on work around beliefs, particularly limiting beliefs, and how those give rise to thoughts, words and actions that generate negativity. Surely the work of the coach starts from the basis that people want to seek improvement, do ‘better’ than they are currently doing (whatever that means), and fulfil their potential? Why wouldn’t we encourage them to look toward alternative futures and choices?

Committing to New Year Resolutions

So, another year is about to begin. Who knows what it may hold? For some, they approach it with trepidation. Others can’t wait to get started and to grab the opportunities that the new year will generate. It is a time when many people make plans and resolve to make changes, yet so many of those dreams will be but memories before January is out.

resolutionsEvery call to adventure is acted upon by two opposing forces.  In one direction we can choose to embark on the adventure, to take the journey into the unknown and face the uncomfortable challenges that will inevitably lie ahead.  In order to make this choice, the force of reward must be sufficiently strong to overcome the opposing force of inertia, the appeal of the status quo or the comfort zone we have become used to.

I spend a lot of time in workshops and working one on one with people who know that they are in a bind.  They know that their current world is less than satisfactory. They recognise that changes would be positive and could make life better in so many ways. And yet, there is no guarantee that people will make the necessary commitment to move away from the world they inhabit, to make the journey that is necessary to gain the reward, the change, the life that they would prefer.

People know they would be healthier if they gave up smoking, that they drink a bit too much alcohol, that they don’t exercise as much as perhaps they could, or that they are in a dead-end job and a change would breathe new life into their career. They may even make a resolution each New Year to do something about it.  Some may even get as far as joining a gym, giving up smoking or drinking for a while, or actively seeking job vacancies on the internet. And that does demonstrate some level of recognition that change may be attractive. So, why are so many of these attempts aborted so early?  What is missing when people embark on these annual failed excursions, which rarely mature into fully fledged adventures resulting in transformation? Continue reading →