“Silence is true wisdom’s best reply.” ~ Euripides
How comfortable are you with periods of silence during conversations? Do you feel uncomfortable? Are you compelled to fill the void and keep the cascade of words flowing?
I was prompted to think about this by a short article I read recently by Angela Dunbar, in which she claims that almost all coaching and talking therapies are designed to work by encouraging the client to open up and talk about what’s happening for them, to speak their thinking aloud and verbalize any insights they may be having. All of this is based on the (not unreasonable) assumption that, by expressing out loud what’s going on in your mind, problems will be unpicked and solutions found.
The article goes on to point to research in the field of cognitive psychology (see paper by Schooler, Ohlsson, and Brooks) that suggests that the act of verbalizing thoughts actually prevents insights arising. This may be because the brain has limited resources, and if they are concentrated on the conscious activity of talking, there is reduced capacity for the non-conscious activities that are necessary for insight to occur. The research evidence suggests that insight involves processes that are distinct from language, and which benefit from not being distracted by speech.